Relationship therapy at its core is designed to repair connections that have been lost in intimate relationships. These connections have a deep impact on the foundation of your relationship and ultimately yourself. Throughout your relationship therapy process you can expect for us to cover the groundwork it will take to Repair, Reframe, Rebuild, and Restructure the foundation of your relationship.
Your first appointment will be an assessment and evaluation of what you have identified as the core issues. We will develop a plan that will be the best for your presenting concerns. Most often this includes a combination of a minimum number of joint sessions and some individual therapy support too.
Repair
The Repair work needed for a healthy relationship begins by accepting that the journey will not just be about the two of you. The repair work will also be largely dependent on your willingness to grow within yourself. A healthy relationship does not thrive where there is blaming and fault finding or the need to make sure that someone is viewed as “right” or “wrong.” A healthy relationship prospers when each individual person is aware of what they contribute to the relationship and how their own perceptions positively or negatively influence the dynamic. This is an intense process which involves much healing. Take reassurance in knowing that the work we are doing together has been experienced by many other’s that have successfully walked this journey before you.
Reframe
To Reframe a relationship means maximizing the strengths that currently existwhile beginning to add in the new framework. The new framework is gathered from the information that being a Level 3 certified couples therapy expert offers to that has been gathered about successful couples by Dr. John and Dr. Julie Gottman. We will be working together with precision and focus to reframe the house of your relationship, your core self, and the interactions that you have with each other. This process will be a highly interactive and rewarding experience.
Rebuild
Relationship therapy often requires a person or a couple to Rebuild an entirely new foundation. This process can mean that you might need to grieve the old relationship and the expectations you had about your future. You may find yourself in a place where you need to start from scratch, stripping down to the core of what brought you together. This Rebuild is often needed for couples and people who have experienced a significant trauma, life change, or breach in trust. You can be confident that there is hope for you and rebuilding requires listening to your heart and your intuition along this journey. You may even feel like the past is too painful to overcome. As we explore what it feels like to “let go,” you will be supported every step of the way with gentle, reassuring guidance towards the right path for you.
Restructure
Within your relationship, and your relationship within yourself, you are now entering a state of Restructure and healthy support. Your foundation will continue to be growing more solid every step of the way. You will be using the skills and knowledge that you have learned about each other and yourselves outside of sessions. The house within which your relationship is founded now knows which areas to remain conscious of to nurture for ongoing health, longevity and continued strength. Not only will your therapist be bringing to you the experience that has been taught to them through years of practicing with couples, but also through invaluable resources. These resources are from evidence-based research tools developed by The Gottman’s who have studied successful couples over multiple decades. Our goal will always be to make sure that what you both are learning is implementable and has been proven to work for thousands of couples who have come before you.
