Many of us firmly plant our feet on the path of self-improvement and personal growth, while others may repeatedly wander on and off that path. Regardless, most of us generally desire more for ourselves; more profitable relationships, money, better bodies, improved health, great jobs, and a better life overall.
So we aspire to improve ourselves, to be the change we want to see in the world because we've all heard it said that we cannot be, do, or have on the outside, what we aren't on the inside. Consequently, this often initiates the continuous reading of self-help books, imagining what we want, repeating affirmations, attending courses and workshops, and innumerable other approaches. And while these methods will no doubt generate some improvement, many of us frequently feel like a mouse on a wheel, always running and ultimately getting nowhere. The profit is often temporary or just not enough of what we want. So what's happening?
Your subconscious mind only has two settings: thrive or survive. The subconscious mind is much like a computer. It doesn't analyze or judge the data coming in. It only executes it without regard for if that information is optimistic, pessimistic, success-oriented, or failure-oriented. Your habits are repeated patterns, and your subconscious mind works to seek out more life, whether positive or negative. Think about cancerous tumors, repeating themselves cell by cell, and taking over further blood supplies to metastasize to other regions of your body. This is more life for the tumor. Only it does not help you. So to flourish in your life and modify your setting to growth, you must first deliberately choose this because:
Your subconscious mind is lazy. Why would it want to carve a new path through the jungle we call your brain when you've already paved a convenient path to decay? Think of it like this: every time you form a new pattern or habit (again, positive or negative), a new neural pathway is constructed in your brain. As a result, neurons can more efficiently fire and transit along the already established path of least resistance. Unfortunately, this means it's considerably more manageable for you to remain in a life of decay than to create a life of growth. So, to establish unique, life-enhancing patterns and routines and a life of growth, you must deliberately and consistently choose unexplored efforts.
You will never exceed who you believe yourself to be. In other words, your beliefs ultimately set a cap on what you can accomplish. You draw what you are, not what you desire. So your health, finances, occupation, and relationships will never prosper, thrive or become more significant than who you believe yourself to be. If you will, your subconscious mind has a comfort zone where it can do minimal work (remember, it's lazy). So if you desire bigger and better things, you must provide yourself with new beliefs and change and expand the cap on your belief system! To be more, you need to do more. Change is hard! Your success leans on how comfortable you are with being uncomfortable.
Heather Oller is the owner and founder of Orlando Thrive Therapy, Coaching, and Counseling. She is a licensed counselor and a family mediator who has over 23 years of dedicated work as a professional in the mental health field. Through her company's mission, she continues to pave the way for future therapists, and their clients, who want a higher quality of life....and who want to thrive, rather than just survive. You can contact Orlando Thrive Therapy at (407) 592-8997 for more information.