People often make the mistake of believing that the things that make us feel loved and appreciated are the same things our spouse needs. For example, you may think that fresh flowers are a perfect gift, but your spouse may see them as a waste of money and allergy trigger. If you aren’t already aware, find out what your spouse needs and provide it lovingly without negative comments about how dumb it is to want a new set of screwdrivers, a picnic at the park, or dinner and a movie. Remember: The best gift you can give is something your spouse wants, not just something you want them to have.

Spending time apart to explore your own desires is just as essential as doing things together. So whether you take a gardening class while your spouse goes fishing or hit up yard sales while they play golf, allow each other room to grow independently. Besides, your separate interests will give you something interesting to talk about when spending time together.

Telling your spouse that you love them is especially crucial when you are not feeling loving sensations. During difficult times, actively generating love by choice will help you stay committed. Saying those three simple words and offering loving gestures will keep your hearts warm.

Practice these tips to keep your love alive and prevent the possibility of divorce. And when you need extra support through marriage counseling, Dr. Phillips can help. Contact us today to learn how counseling can keep your marriage healthy and strong.